Wednesday, November 11, 2009

20 Going On 24

We have kissed the teenage months goodbye!



How is it possible that my little baby is now 20 months old? March seems so far away, yet 20 months seems so close to 24 months. Similarly, it seems like Emmerson has been part of my life forever, and yet the last 20 months have flown by.

I don't post many updates anymore, it seems. Mainly cute pictures and videos, with a few wordy posts thrown in when something happens, like the attack of H1N1. Partly that's because I don't have as much to say about adoption. The process of adoption was such a vital part of my life before Emmerson arrived, and even in the months after it was a big part of our lives, but adoption per se is no longer the overarching factor that defines our life or our relationship. (Of course, adoption is going to become a very big part of our life once again!)

It's also partly because we keep our life more private now -- I turn to Facebook more often since I can control things a little more there. And frankly, there's so many gazillions of people posting about the same old trials and tribulations on blogs, Facebook, Twitter and other social networking sites these days that it's all just becoming background noise, and I don't feel much like contributing to it. But I do reserve the right to change that 100 percent when we add on our new addition. :-)

So, anyway, back to Miss Emmerson at 20 months. (Just had a flashback: Do any of you remember that old TV series, "James at 15?")

She is a wildly normal toddler!

She doesn't like vegetables but a few nights in a row last week could not get enough sweet corn and practically licked out the serving dish to get every last morsel. At the same time, she stopped eating the broccoli and ranch dressing she had loved. She has always been a greater eater but after getting H1N1, has apparently decided that she will only pick at dinner and instead have a big snack later (such as two whole bananas). She still loves fruit. She must review pieces of food before consuming to make sure they are suitable - they must not be broken or too small, for instance.

She still loves reading. But a few times in the last week, she hasn't wanted to read, so I'm hoping that's not a hint that her passion is fading ever so slightly.

Emmerson loves to get a reaction from people. She will make funny faces to try to get us to laugh. She will look at me before doing something naughty to see if I'm watching, and if I am, she'll do it, but if I'm not, she won't. Just last night as she was eating her snack, she put a magnetic letter in her mouth, and when I told her no, she did it again, with an evil grin. But then I ignored the behavior, and she instantly stopped doing it.

She is talking like mad. Our bedtime routine includes rocking and reviewing our day as music plays. It used to be me doing all the talking. Now I might not be able to get a word in, as Emmerson can talk for 5 or 10 minutes nonstop. She basically repeats all words now and is talking in two- and three-word sentences (that make sense -- she says so much but a lot isn't recognizable). She is singing understandable melodies, is counting and is saying much of the ABCs. The other week, I pointed out the number 7 in our street address and Emmerson continued counting up to 10. It's especially endearing when she says "I love you" or when she gets out of bed and says, "Good morning."

Emmerson is still a really good sleeper. I attribute this largely to consistency and having a good bedtime and naptime routine. I put her down in her bed awake, and while she may stay up and play for a little while, she is happy and content and usually is asleep within 10 minutes (when she is going through developmental stages, it may take an hour, but it's a happy hour!).

She is very impatient! She wants everything now!

She is sassy!

But also sweet, doling out hugs or kisses.

Emmerson loves being outside, daycare, spinning, dancing, running, singing, jumping, Kindermusik, splashing in the dog's water bowl, Yo Gabba Gabba, a family wedding video, Laurie Berkner, throwing her stuffed animals and dolls, knocking over stackables, running away from me, trying to climb into her crib, climbing around in my CR-V, cuddles in the morning, George, grabbing the remote control or computer mouse or my iPhone, her blankets, my stainless steel coffee mug, jumping in her crib, going up and down the stairs, her play kitchen, looking at her teeth and mouth in the mirror, tearing up old magazines, sucking the Aqua Doodle pen until it's dry, climbing on Sophie Dogge, and an exhausting list of other stuff!

Every parent I know considers their child wild and spirited, unstoppable, active and at times crazy and goofy, with a gentle, loving, cuddly side. Emmerson at 20 months is no different -- just a wildly normal toddler.

But soon she's going to be a big sister. And that could change everything!

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I already have to edit this post, as another blog reminded me of a couple more things.

First, Emmerson recently got little injuries to two fingers on her left hand. She was absolutely fascinated by the smaller owie on her little finger. She constantly examined it and would point it out if asked about her boo-boo. It was a tiny speck but it had her utmost attention!

Second, Emmerson has become a great helper. Things must be in the proper organized state. If I leave the microwave door open for a split second, Emmerson's radar goes off, and she quickly comes over to slam the door closed (and it's on a counter that she can barely reach). She likes putting her plates in the sink, throwing items in the garbage (and it's not always actual trash), putting her books on her bookshelf, wiping down the table and her face and hands, and generally being a good little helper. It's just too bad that she's too young to do the dishes and the laundry, as I'm pretty sure that this little stage will have long since passed by the time she is old enough.

Monday, November 9, 2009

Reading Buddies

This was not staged! Emme, Sophie Dogge and Rudy the Cat just curled up together for some cozy time.

Sunday, November 8, 2009

This Could Be Interesting

Friday, November 6, 2009

Favorite Photo Friday

Wednesday, November 4, 2009

Not-Quite-Wordless Wednesday (H1N1 Strikes Again)

Poor Emmerson has a confirmed case of H1N1 influenza. She's been sick and miserable for three days now and counting.


(Emmerson watching a favorite video)

She was fine right through Sunday night, eating and playing like her normal wild and crazy, unstoppable self. She'd had a bit of a cold the week before and a slight, occasional cough, but that was it. But late on Sunday night, I checked on her after the World Series game -- my normal pre-bedtime routine -- and she was very hot and uncomfortable, and her breathing seemed rapid and shallow. We had a pretty sleepless night, and finally at 6 a.m. Monday I decided to take Emmerson to the ER because I was concerned about her labored breathing.

Apparently, that's a good time to go to the ER, as we were basically the only ones there and we were tended to immediately. However, we also were immediately treated as if we had the bubonic plague, with one nurse rudely demanding that Emmerson keep on a little mask even if it meant taping it to her head. Another nurse had on a full plastic face mask. Emmerson was too sick to care, for the most part. The ER doc also was concerned about Emme's breathing, along with her whimpering and moaning, so off we went for a chest X-ray. Fortunately, it was clear. By that time, her fever was 102.5, not outrageously high, but concerning. The doc also swabbed her throat. Three hours after we went to the ER, we went home. Later that day, we got the swab results -- confirmed H1N1. Just a few days before that, on Thursday, Emme had had her first dose of the H1N1 vaccine -- but by then, she'd already been exposed to the virus, likely at daycare, where several other kids were out sick.

I was able to get Emmerson started on Tamiflu on Monday evening. The ER instructions were to rotate Motrin and Tylenol every four hours, so she'd have, say, a dose of Motrin, then four hours later a dose of Tylenol, and four hours after that, a dose of Motrin, and so on. She also is getting albuterol to help open up the breathing passages in her lungs. Although Tamiflu can cause some vomiting, Emmerson hasn't experienced that, fortunately -- but it does apparently taste pretty nasty, and she can't stand it.

Emmerson's fever continues to come and go. She is stil pretty listless, although she does perk up watching her favorite videos (Yo Gabba, Laurie Berkner, and some family wedding videos). She has hardly eaten anything since dinner Sunday -- some Cheerios, some mandarin oranges, a couple bites of toast, and this morning a couple strawberries with some milk. I think she must have aches and pains because she acts sometimes as if she is in pain. One very nice lady we chatted with while waiting to get our Tamiflu prescription said she had H1N1 and that her chest really hurt with each cough, and I imagine Emmerson must be feeling the same, as she cries out when she coughs.

It's been very hard to see Emmerson so sick and miserable. People who brush off H1N1 need to see the results of a child sick with it. I'm so glad that we have access to world-class health care and ER service just minutes away. I only wish that the vaccine had been available sooner for us. I haven't been able to get the vaccine myself, and the ER doc warned me that I am likely to contract H1N1 as well. If that happens, I certainly hope my case is mild (right now I have symptoms similar to a cold). Emmerson's illness struck quickly in the middle of the night, and given her previous bout with RSV and pneumonia, I wasn't taking chances so sought help quickly and got treatment started quickly. We're fortunate that we were able to do that. It's frightening to think about the people who don't have this same kind of access to quality health care. Take care of your kids, and remember that vaccines work.

Tuesday, November 3, 2009

National Adoption Month 2009: Foster Care Adoption

In honor of National Adoption Month this November, we'll be sharing several adoption-related posts.

This is from the Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption:

All children deserve a loving, permanent home. This is the premise of National Adoption Awareness Month, founded in 1990 to increase the number of children adopted from U.S. foster care and celebrate the unique joys of creating families through foster care adoption.

The Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption encourages families to open their hearts and homes to children waiting to be adopted. Research conducted by Harris Interactive and commissioned by the Foundation(1) suggests Americans' misperceptions may act as a barrier to foster care adoption. A surprising number of Americans underestimate the number of children waiting for adoptive families, believe children in foster care entered because of juvenile delinquency and do not know foster care adoption is affordable and permanent.

The facts:

  • Children enter the foster care system through no fault of their own. As victims of abuse, neglect and/or abandonment, they are removed from their homes because their birth families are unable or unwilling to provide a safe environment for them.


  • More than 129,000 children in the U.S. foster care system are available for adoption. Their parents' legal rights have been permanently terminated and children are left without a family.


  • Children often wait five or more years to be adopted, can move three or more times in foster care and are frequently separated from siblings. More than half of these children are nine years of age or older.


  • Each year, more than 20,000 children available for adoption turn 18 and leave the foster care system without a family.


  • Adopting from foster care is affordable. Most child welfare agencies cover the costs of home studies and court fees, and provide post-adoption subsidies. Thousands of employers offer benefits for employees who adopt and adoption tax credits are available to most families.


  • Every child is adoptable. Many children in foster care have special needs. All of them deserve the chance to grow up in a safe, loving, permanent home. Post-adoption resources are available.


  • Adopting from foster care is permanent. Once a child is adopted out of foster care, the birth parents cannot attempt to claim them or fight in court for their return.


  • "Every child deserves a family," says Rita Soronen, executive director of the Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption. "There is a critical need for Americans to become aware and involved. Everyone can make a difference - either by adopting a child from foster care or by supporting the work of agencies finding forever families for waiting fhildren. We offer a myriad of free resources, including a step-by-step guide for those considering adoption and a foster care adoption awareness toolkit for those willing to advocate in their community. We are also proud of our relationship with Wendy's as they work to encourage foster care adoption through in-store awareness campaigns this month, fundraising and volunteering across North America."

    Learn more or order the Foundation's free materials at www.DaveThomasFoundationForAdoption.org or 1-800-ASK-DTFA.

    About the Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption

    The Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption is a national nonprofit public charity dedicated to dramatically increasing the adoptions of the more than 150,000 children waiting in North America's foster care systems. Created by Wendy's founder, Dave Thomas, who was adopted, the Foundation implements results-driven national signature programs, foster care adoption awareness initiatives and research-based advocacy efforts. (1) National Foster Care Adoption Attitudes Survey, November 2007, conducted by Harris Interactive and commissioned by the Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption.

    SOURCE: Dave Thomas Foundation For Adoption

    Saturday, October 31, 2009

    Happy Halloween!





    Thursday, October 29, 2009

    Jockey Celebrates National Adoption Month

    Jockey International, Inc., is celebrating National Adoption Month (November) and the five-year anniversary of Jockey Being Family, the brand's corporate citizenship initiative aimed at strengthening post-adoptive families, by increasing its financial support of post-adoption services.

    This November, Jockey is donating one percent of all Jockey catalog and Jockey.com online sales, as well as 100 percent of sales from its Jockey Being Family Bear to the Debra Steigerwaldt Waller Foundation for Adoption, which funds post-adoption services for children and families. Consumers can help make a difference in the life of a family during National Adoption Month by making a purchase through the Jockey catalog or on Jockey.com.

    "Adoption is a lifelong journey, but without post-adoption services many adoptive families are at risk to fail," said Debra Waller, Chairman and CEO of Jockey International, Inc. "Through Jockey Being Family, we strive to raise awareness of the need for post-adoption services to help ensure that families get a strong head start and become 'forever' families."

    Since 2005, Jockey Being Family has supported post-adoption services through Jockey employee volunteerism and financial support to signature nonprofit partners, such as the North American Council on Adoptable Children, the Adoption Resources of Wisconsin, the Center for Adoption Support and Education, the Adoption Council of Canada and the Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption.

    Jockey recently partnered with the Dave Thomas Foundation to offer parents a new free resource booklet, called A Step-by-Step Guide to Post-Adoption. Jockey underwrote the costs of the guide, which defines the types of resources available for parents after an adoption is finalized.

    Additionally, throughout the year Jockey Being Family sponsors fundraising initiatives, and donates $3 from each purchase of its Jockey Being Family Bear to support post-adoption services. Some of the program's initiatives include:

  • Home to Stay Backpack Program - Jockey employee volunteers compile personalized backpacks for children who were adopted, full of fun, age-specific items to call their own.


  • Comfort Crafters - Jockey employees and other volunteers create hand-made quilts and blankets for each child's backpack.

  • Wednesday, October 28, 2009

    So Tell Me ...



    ... how do you get your toddler or child to eat vegetables by choice?

    Emmerson loved vegetables when she was a baby, in the pureed form. There was a brief window when she enjoyed raw tomatoes, too. But now she eats broccoli with ranch dressing (loves it!) and corn on the cob. I've tried other vegetables with ranch, but that's a no-go. And I'm not sure that she will voluntarily eat any other vegetables. And if I mix in vegetables, say with pasta, and she sees a flash of orange carrot or the green of a pea, she'll disdainfully push it aside or sometimes get downright angry and stop eating.

    I do diguise pureed vegetables in many meals (I add pureed carrots or sweet potatoes to spaghetti for instance). And just recently I started buying Horizon's Little Blends, which she enjoys. But that doesn't help her learn to eat vegetables by choice since she doesn't know she's eating them. I do try to offer her vegetables at lunch and dinner -- vegetables she can see and feel and fling to the wall to see if it sticks.

    On the flip side, Emme loves fruit and would -- and often does -- eat fruit at every meal or for dessert. (She almost never eats any sweets.)

    Maybe it doesn't matter that she won't eat vegetables. She's only 19 months old. I'm pretty sure I didn't enjoy vegetables at that age either (Mom??) but now I love all vegetables (especially if someone else is preparing them, and especially on the grill). Emme does take a multivitamin (especially important for vitamin D, which many kids are deficient in, especially African-Americans because of their darker skin).

    How do you handle the vegetable situation with your child? Email me or leave a comment, if you carrot to. I'm sure I'll be green bean with envy.

    Sunday, October 25, 2009

    A Little Early Trick-Or-Treating

    Emme takes a break from a little early trick-or-treating with some of her little friends.

    Saturday, October 24, 2009

    Tweet, Tweet

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    Wednesday, October 21, 2009

    Wordless Wednesday



    (Yep, that would be me, circa 19wacky-something.)

    Monday, October 19, 2009

    Fall Fun

    Enjoying some fall fun during a visit with the grandparents!

    Vacuuming the driveway:



    Pulling the little red wagon (temperature was in the low 30s):


    Playing in the bar sink:


    Aw, sweet apple tree heart:


    At the pumpkin patch (zero interest in actual pumpkins):


    Hiking in the forest preserve:


    Hiking in the forest preserve:

    Saturday, October 17, 2009

    The Looking Glass

    Emme loves the kitchen remodel her grandparents recently had done. The microwave is now at the perfect height for a dancing toddler, especially one who loves to look at her reflection and who took all of about two minutes to crack the "child-proof" safety code and can now operate the microwave as well as the adults (or better)!

    This cracks me up, but it's so much funnier to watch her perform in person. Emme is such a little goofball. She just brightens up our lives!

    Friday, October 16, 2009

    Favorite Photo Friday