I think that all of us are a bit unsure about how ...

2008-01-18T11:07:00.000-06:00

I think that all of us are a bit unsure about how others view our mixed race families through adoptions. We have not brought our son home yet, but our best friends who adopted from Ethiopia get plenty of stares and interesting--or even rude questions.

That said, I don't think it is right to refer to "those" people as your daughter's birth-family. Bad parents are everywhere in every race...the same can be said for loving families who offer their homes and their hearts to a child that needs them.

Most of us that think we are not racist still find that we hold racist attitudes. Bringing a child of another race into your home forces you to confront those issues and challenge them every day.

Interesting that he's imagining a fantastical worl...

2008-01-16T09:41:00.000-06:00

Interesting that he's imagining a fantastical world in which white parents magically receive no questions or comments from others when adopting transracially. The issues are the same and I think we have to perform some educational efforts to enlighten our communities.

"Given close enough proximity, white people are almost always compelled to question our relationship with her. "So who do we have here" they ask, hardly veiling their anxiety. "

This attitude is common as people struggle to find the appropriate language to use and look to use to chart them through the playground dynamics.

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I think that all of us are a bit unsure about how ...

Interesting that he's imagining a fantastical worl...